There’s a conversation you’ve been dreading. It’s a moment you wished would never come, even though you knew it likely would. Your aging loved one has begun to need more care than you can give, and it is time to admit that you all need help.
Ideally, there have been discussions along the way, in which all individuals have expressed their wishes and planned ahead to have those wishes carried out. This isn’t always the case, but if there is still time to discuss the future, don’t delay. If that future is now a reality, know that there is help to make the transition as painless as possible.
How do you know it’s time? How do you know it is really the right time, and that you aren’t making a mistake? Here are a few signs that help is needed:
- A life-changing event has occurred. Sometimes a stroke, an injury or the passing of another caregiver leads to the decision that more help is needed.
- An accident or near-miss moment has occurred. Often, aging individuals try to hide their impairment from loved ones, and the issues are brought to light by a fall or other accident in the home.
- A healthcare professional has recommended additional help. Your loved one’s physician may spot signs that they are becoming less able to be independent.
- Your loved one struggles to complete activities of daily living. ADLs are the things we do each day, from getting dressed to fixing lunch. If your loved one cannot complete these without help, it may be a sign that further decline in abilities will come.
- Your loved one engages in dangerous behaviors. Wandering away from home, leaving the stove on, or being unable to recognize common dangers requires near constant assistance.
- Your loved one cannot handle their medication regimen. An aging individual who cannot take their medication properly could face serious danger from overdose or lack of medicine. The need for assistance varies with the individual, but it is a very important detail to consider.
- Current caregivers are burned out or overly stressed. It is common for people to want to take the job of caregiving on alone, or even with help of other family members. However, when needs are excessive or the caregivers have other obligations (jobs, children, health concerns, etc.), there is no shame in seeking assistance.
You don’t have to feel overwhelmed and helpless in these situations. Your loved one can maintain the maximum amount of independence possible and be served with dignity and respect. Accucare Home Health Care of St. Louis offers a wide variety of services, ranging from respite care and light assistance to full 24-hour care. The sooner you consider the possibility of enlisting help, the easier the transition will be. Call us today for a free, no-obligation initial consultation.
